Can God Use a Divorced Person? (Y1.T1.D24)
The simplest answer is, "Yes, God can and will use anyone who comes to him."
However, divorce, like marriage, isn't simple. While every human has similar innate desires (e.g., food, shelter, love), our individual experiences are unique. I'm not trained or skilled to speak to the painful layers of rejection and self-evaluation you might be going through. What I can provide is my testimony and the hope scripture offers.
Recently I published a post about how my shame and regrets led me to God's unconditional love. And while God changed my heart, I continued to make immature decisions. I married a nonbeliever when I was twenty-four, thinking romantic love would translate into a lifelong commitment. It didn't.
Three years after my first divorce, I wed another non-believer—but that marriage also ended.
I'd had enough. I knew my children had enough. So for the next six years, I remained single and satisfied with God alone. Although I’d asked Jesus into my heart, I hadn’t asked his permission about who to marry—until I met the man who would become my third husband.
I spent three years praying for God’s direction before I vowed to love one of God’s own for the rest of my life. The marriage lasted for 17 years when my husband surprised our entire community by filing for divorce—and at the time of this post, my former husband has yet to tell me why. That's how complicated life can become.
So here I am, thrice-divorced; a statement that's more embarrassing than inspiring. Even as I write this, I risk having religious leaders reject The Mosaic Bible Experience and condemn me because of my failed marriages.
I hope they don't. God’s grace is more powerful than our circumstances. How do I know?
Jesus sought to save others through a woman with a similar testimony. He could have chosen anyone in Samaria to spread the good news of his coming, but he selected a woman who'd had five husbands and rightly said to her, "and he whom you now have is not your husband" (John 4:18). This woman became the first mass evangelist to Christianity. Jesus used her to convert an entire town and he wants to do the same through you and me.
Remember the Savior said: "Come unto me, all who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28).
Will You Come?
4 He needed to pass through Samaria. 5 So he came to a city of Samaria, called Sychar, near the parcel of ground that Jacob gave to his son, Joseph. 6 Jacob’s well was there. Jesus therefore, being tired from his journey, sat down by the well. It was about the sixth hour. 7 A woman of Samaria came to draw water. Jesus said to her, “Give me a drink.” 8 For his disciples had gone away into the city to buy food.
9 The Samaritan woman therefore said to him, “How is it that you, being a Jew, ask for a drink from me, a Samaritan woman?” (For Jews have no dealings with Samaritans.)
10 Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God, and who it is who says to you, ‘Give me a drink,’ you would have asked him, and he would have given you living water.”
11 The woman said to him, “Sir, you have nothing to draw with, and the well is deep. So where do you get that living water? 12 Are you greater than our father, Jacob, who gave us the well and drank from it himself, as did his children and his livestock?”
13 Jesus answered her, “Everyone who drinks of this water will thirst again, 14 but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never thirst again; but the water that I will give him will become in him a well of water springing up to eternal life.”
15 The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water, so that I don’t get thirsty, neither come all the way here to draw.”
16 Jesus said to her, “Go, call your husband, and come here.”
17 The woman answered, “I have no husband.”
Jesus said to her, “You said well, ‘I have no husband,’ 18 for you have had five husbands; and he whom you now have is not your husband. This you have said truly.”
19 The woman said to him, “Sir, I perceive that you are a prophet. 20 Our fathers worshiped in this mountain, and you Jews say that in Jerusalem is the place where people ought to worship.”
21 Jesus said to her, “Woman, believe me, the hour comes, when neither in this mountain, nor in Jerusalem, will you worship the Father. 22 You worship that which you don’t know. We worship that which we know; for salvation is from the Jews. 23 But the hour comes, and now is, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for the Father seeks such to be his worshipers. 24 God is spirit, and those who worship him must worship in spirit and truth.”
25 The woman said to him, “I know that Messiah comes, he who is called Christ. When he has come, he will declare to us all things.”
26 Jesus said to her, “I am he, the one who speaks to you.” 27 At this, his disciples came. They marveled that he was speaking with a woman; yet no one said, “What are you looking for?” or, “Why do you speak with her?” 28 So the woman left her water pot, went away into the city, and said to the people, 29 “Come, see a man who told me everything that I did. Can this be the Christ?”
30 They went out of the city, and were coming to him. 31 In the meanwhile, the disciples urged him, saying, “Rabbi, eat.”
32 But he said to them, “I have food to eat that you don’t know about.”
33 The disciples therefore said to one another, “Has anyone brought him something to eat?”
34 Jesus said to them, “My food is to do the will of him who sent me and to accomplish his work. 35 Don’t you say, ‘There are yet four months until the harvest?’ Behold, I tell you, lift up your eyes and look at the fields, that they are white for harvest already. 36 He who reaps receives wages and gathers fruit to eternal life; that both he who sows and he who reaps may rejoice together. 37 For in this the saying is true, ‘One sows, and another reaps.’ 38 I sent you to reap that for which you haven’t labored. Others have labored, and you have entered into their labor.”
39 From that city many of the Samaritans believed in him because of the word of the woman, who testified, “He told me everything that I did.” 40 So when the Samaritans came to him, they begged him to stay with them. He stayed there two days. 41 Many more believed because of his word. 42 They said to the woman, “Now we believe, not because of your speaking; for we have heard for ourselves, and know that this is indeed the Christ, the Savior of the world.” (John 4:4–42)
1 “Hey! Come, everyone who thirsts, to the waters!
Come, he who has no money, buy, and eat!
Yes, come, buy wine and milk without money and without price.
2 Why do you spend money for that which is not bread,
and your labor for that which doesn’t satisfy?
Listen diligently to me, and eat that which is good,
and let your soul delight itself in richness.
3 Turn your ear, and come to me.
Hear, and your soul will live.
I will make an everlasting covenant with you, even the sure mercies of David.
4 Behold, I have given him for a witness to the peoples,
a leader and commander to the peoples.
5 Behold, you shall call a nation that you don’t know;
and a nation that didn’t know you shall run to you,
because of Yahweh your God,
and for the Holy One of Israel;
for he has glorified you.” (Isaiah 55:1–5)
I’m grateful for my life and the steadfast love Your care does to preserve my spirit (Job 10:12). You alone are the source of my salvation. My soul can rest in Your faithfulness (Psalm 62:1). Through rejection and failure, help me see beyond criticism and shame. Teach me to seek You in every single aspect of my day. You said a righteous man might fall seven times but will continue to rise up again (Proverbs 24:16). I’m extending my hand to you today, Lord—pull me to my feet again.
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